One rainy day, over chai lattes and gossip, my best friend Katie asked me a surprisingly saucy question, "Do you like spanking during sex?" Blushing behind my oversized mug, I thought about the irony: She was asking me to simultaneously drink and spill the tea. Though I've never been one to shy away from a sexy conversation, I realized then and there that I had never really talked to my friends about spanking. Oral? Sure. Period sex? No brainer. Ways to do it in a twin bed? I could go on for hours. But getting bopped on my bottom? Now that's a chapter that never seemed to get covered.
Don't get it twisted: there's a lot of behind-the-scenes action when it comes to getting your behind seen. Do you know you enjoy a tap on the tush? Or perhaps you've always been intrigued by someone dabbing your derrière? It's natural to wonder about the best practices for incorporating spanking into your sex life. And while knowing exactly what to do can be helpful, knowing what not to do can be straight-up enlightening.
I spoke to two sex experts about the seven things you may want to avoid if you enjoy spanking during sex.
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