You’re two dates in with someone new, and you seem like a natural fit for each other. You make each other laugh, share a lot of the same interests, and have a natural flow of conversation. But something about them seems off, and you can’t quite put your finger on it. Maybe they won’t talk much about their personal life, or they only text you during random times of day or night. You never want to believe someone is cheating on their partner with you, but unfortunately, it can happen. And when it does, it can be exceedingly difficult to figure out what’s really going on.
Sadly, some people are hiding a lot behind their meticulously curated online profiles (or behind that charming persona they put on when you first met at the bar). According to a February 2019 study from YouGov, 7% of people who have ever used dating apps or websites have used them to cheat on a partner. Especially in larger cities, where you’re less likely to come across a dating profile of someone you know, it’s all too easy for people to obscure the fact that they’re not actually single. And when you first start hanging out or hooking up with them, you’re probably none the wiser.
But if something doesn’t quite add up, you might start to question your new partner's real intentions. And with a little detective work, you can sometimes get answers on your own. “It is perfectly reasonable to do some basic checking on the person you are dating,” suggests David Bennett, a relationship expert with Double Trust Dating. Try to find your new partner on social media (or anywhere online, really) to see if you can learn more about their personal life. And in the meantime, look out for these dating behaviors that might mean your new bae isn’t telling you the full truth.