It’s 2019, and Instagram has basically become a dating app in its own right. With all the thirst traps and interactive stories people are posting, it’s easier than ever to engage with someone over the platform and show your interest in them. But if you’re wondering how to reject someone over Instagram DM, it can be tricky. Talking to someone on this app is a bit different than messaging through text or Tinder (plus, read receipts are automatically a thing on IG... yikes). What’s a thoughtful but uninterested person supposed to do?
First of all, it really depends on the situation. If you’re receiving unwanted advances on Instagram from someone you don’t know, you should never feel obligated to respond. Thankfully, the app gives you the option to block or ignore messages from people you don’t follow — so if you’re uncomfortable, that’s probably your best move.
But if it’s someone you do know, and a situation where you don’t feel threatened, you can respond in several different ways. "The two keys are tact and honesty when letting someone down," dating coach Erika Ettin told Elite Daily. As much as you might be tempted to beat around the bush and hope they get the hint, this isn’t usually the best idea. The more you put off telling someone you’re not interested, the more likely they are to feel hurt and caught off guard. Here are some strategies to turn someone down in the DMs (with kindness).