Moving in with your SO is arguably one of the biggest decisions you can make in your relationship. For one, it says you foresee a future together. Secondly, it also means you’ll be taking the relationship to a new level of intimacy: picking out furniture together, paying bills together, and of course, sharing a bathroom. Which begs the question: how do you keep a relationship exciting after moving in together? Indeed, you're bound to get in a groove with someone when you're living with them 24/7, and while that's totally normal and healthy, it also has the potential to make your relationship feel unpleasantly routine.
There are obviously tons of perks to living with your partner (and no, I’m not just referring to saving money on rent). In addition to having sleepovers with bae every night, you get to wake up to your favorite face in the world every morning. There's no pressure to go out on a Friday night, and whipping up lazy Sunday brunches becomes the norm. So it's no surprise that people experience a greater feeling of emotional well-being after moving in with a partner, according to a 2015 study published in the Journal of Family Psychology.
Still, while cohabiting comes with some real rewards, it also comes with some challenges as well. When you’re living with your SO, you’re not only inherently spending more time around them, but you’re also taking on some new household responsibilities together while also trying to make sure you each maintain some semblance of personal space. The bottom line is this: It can get all too easy to start accidentally taking your partner for granted.
As relationship expert Susan Winter explains, “After having lived together for awhile, we become familiar with our mate’s patterns and responses. Predictability makes our partnership appear less exciting than the early days of getting to know each other.”
However, cohabiting doesn’t have to kill the romance — as long as you make a concerted effort to continually seek out fresh ways to infuse novelty into your relationship. Here are some foolproof ways to keep the spark alive with bae once you become roomies.