Flirting can be a delicate, thrilling mystery. It can also require subtlety and lightheartedness because coming on too strong can prematurely shut down a vibe. Maybe you've felt like the heart-eye emoji about this person for a while, or perhaps you don't even know what they look like IRL. Either way, it can be useful to brush up on your flirting technique. To get the scoop on the basics of being a good flirt, I asked relationship experts how to flirt on a first date.
"Flirting is an invitation to connect and an expression of interest," Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D., licensed psychotherapist and author of Love Styles: How to Celebrate Your Differences, tells Elite Daily. "A sense of humor, wittiness, and clever conversation are the essence of flirting. It's a way to connect and let someone know you're interested without saying it out loud."
Dr. Joshua Klapow, clinical psychologist and host of the Kurre and Klapow Show, agrees. "You shouldn't have to over-flirt to grab the attention of someone you like," he says."If you flirt in small amounts and in an authentic manner, it is much more effective." He adds that it's best to treat flirting like the start of a bonfire. You want to spark the kindling, foster a flame, and blow on it a little bit without putting it out.
For some guidance on how to get your flirting skills in tip-top shape, consider the following tips.