5 Women Reveal The Most Soul-Affirming Advice Their BFF Gave Them About Love

Love makes our brains feel all fuzzy and mushy with feel-good vibes. While there’s almost nothing better than feeling totally obsessed with someone, it can also make it difficult to tell when things might be going wrong. That’s what we need our squad for. When your bestie gets all caught up in her own head, bring her back to reality with some love advice for your best friend. You can help each other remember that you are worthy of only the best.

My friends have a great habit of reminding me what I’m capable of achieving, whether it be in my career or my personal relationships. Sometimes when they notice I might be settling, they’ll offer a gentle nudge in the right direction... or more like a slap in the face, depending on how much I refuse to listen. I have my girls to thank for helping me get out of relationships that left me worn out, unfulfilled, and just plain hopeless. They’ll pull me aside, tell me they’ve got my best interests at heart, and encourage me to take a leap of faith. Often, it’s just the advice I needed to hear but was too scared to let myself believe.

I also have some gal pals who are in pretty stable and amazing relationships themselves, so it’s always good to have them as role models. I’ve collected some nuggets of wisdom from women who know a thing or two, and lucky for all of us, they’re happy to share.

Find Joy
Stocksy/Santi Nunez
Choose battles carefully, but be bold in fighting for something that is worth fighting for … Settle only for someone who has a long tether of patience and makes you laugh every day.

— Stephanie, 25

Believe What You See
Stocksy/Jovo Jovanovic
My friend told me once, 'When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time around.’

— Sarah, 24

[Editor's note: This quote is from Oprah Winfrey paraphrasing Maya Angelou.]

Wait for the Real Thing
Stocksy/Guille Faingold
My friend encouraged me to hold out for someone I felt a real spark with, as opposed to settling for someone who made sense for me on paper. It might sound like the most obvious advice in the world, but when you're the only single person in your friend group and you're going on a million mediocre dates, it can hard to wait patiently for a spark! I'm glad she reaffirmed that true chemistry is worth waiting for.

— Hannah, 25

Love Yourself
Stocksy/Kristine Weilert
You are unable to fully love someone else until you fully love yourself.

— Jordan, 24

Stay in the Moment
Stocksy/Renáta Török-Bognár
Know the difference between loving someone for who they are versus being in love with their potential.

— Kelsey, 25

Love isn’t easy, but thankfully, you don’t have to do it without trusty friends at your side, always wishing for the best for you. Whether they’re in relationships themselves or not, your friends know how to give you outside perspective on a situation you might be too caught up in personally. When you’re not sure who to turn to, they’re the ones who have your back. And although romance comes and goes, friends often stay in your life forever, so they might just be the best relationships of all.