Your finger trembles as you hover over the "send" button. After re-reading the draft five times, you decide to delete an exclamation point. You wonder: is that too many emojis? Should I wait a few more minutes to respond? And why are my palms so sweaty? If you're dating in the 21st century, odds are, these texting jitters probably sound all too familiar. Fortunately, I talked to three therapists to gather their tips for reducing anxiety while texting your crush. Not only are their strategies super simple to adopt, but they can be effective in helping you to gain some much-needed perspective and maintain a healthy, positive mindset.
For the record, though, it's totally normal to feel anxious while texting someone you like. "We always feel anxious if there is a risk of rejection," says Dr. Dominique Samuels, the resident psychologist for relationship-health app Emi Couple.
According to Dr. Samuels, your body doesn't know how to distinguish between a physical threat and an emotional threat, which is why you go into fight or flight mode, regardless of whether you're getting chased by a criminal or simply waiting for a response from someone cute.
"The minute that the '...' is moving, or you look at the phone expectedly, your fear increases," explains Dr. Samuels.