Here's the thing: I hate conflict. I will pretend that everything is A-OK even if it hurts. I will bottle things up, grin and bear it, resort to passive aggression, and eventually — when I truly can't hide my frustration any longer — explode. It's very healthy. (Sarcasm.) Sure, being non-confrontational doesn't have to be a bad thing. But this tendency can prevent you from acknowledging grievances before they become full-blown issues, and this is especially problematic in relationships. If you're like me, then it might be time to learn some tips for talking about your feelings with your significant other.
No one likes fighting with an SO, but sometimes, conflict is necessary. I spoke to Dr. Rebekah Montgomery, a clinical psychologist specializing in relationships and helping couples prepare for marriage, and she told me just how unhealthy it is to avoid conflict. "It leaves many things unsaid, making your relationship vulnerable to built-up resentments," she explains. "This can lead to irritability, coldness, passive-aggressive behavior, or just overall unhappiness." 'Conflict' has a negative connotation, but conflict is actually constructive and healthy when it's handled correctly. For those who struggle with acknowledging issues, here is some essential advice to help you get comfortable with conflict.