Sometimes you have those days when you feel like you're literally the only person on the planet — whether you live with three roommates, or you're surrounded by people at work all day, or even if you've just gotten 300 likes on your latest IG of you napping with your cat. Despite all of these things, sometimes you just feel alone, plain and simple. It can be hard to find things that make you feel less lonely, but it's not totally impossible. It's all about finding those little things in life that help you feel connected with others.
The sad thing is, loneliness is really common in our world right now, and it can have some really serious consequences. CBS News reports that, in a 2016 survey of more than 2,000 Americans, over 70 percent of respondents said they felt lonely at least once a week. What's more, a new study published in the journal Psychological Medicine showed that young adults who feel lonely are more likely to experience mental health issues, and generally have a much harder time coping with stress.
In this new study, Business Insider reports, researchers from King's College London gathered data from more than 2,000 pairs of millennial twins from Wales and England, who were asked about their personal experiences throughout different stages of their lives, the quality of their relationships, their feelings on the state of their physical and mental health, and how lonely they felt. According to the news outlet, 7 percent of participants said "they often felt lonely," and 23 to 31 percent reported feeling "left out or [that they] lacked companionship." What's more, feelings of loneliness in these participants were found to double their chances of experiencing a mental health issue.
Bottom line: Loneliness is clearly something that many of us are struggling with right now. It can be hard to shake these feelings, but trust me when I say it's not totally impossible. Here are a few ways to feel a little less alone.
Yes, that means putting your phone in your pocket and making eye contact, y'all. When you're with others, make it a point to really be in the room and in the moment.
"This is challenging with the myriad distractions like mobile devices," Bennett says. "If you want to truly connect with the people you see regularly, and form deeper bonds, you'll have to give them your full attention when you're with them."
And trust me, it feels so nice to enjoy a whole dinner without looking at Instagram or Twitter, or take a walk in the park with a friend and really listen to how their day was.
Yep, that also means taking out the headphones, smiling at your barista, or talking to one of your customers at work with a little more depth than you might want to.
"Many people are lonely because they come across as extremely closed-off and uninterested in those around them," Bennett tells Elite Daily. "They will walk into a coffee shop, then sit in a far-off table with headphones in, hiding behind a laptop, and they never meet anybody."
Instead, he suggests, open yourself to spontaneous interactions. The first step to this is simply opening your mind to the sheer possibility of having meaningful interactions wherever you might go. Then, Bennett explains, consider your body language and how you interact with those around you. You might notice that these subtle changes really do open you up to totally new, and maybe even long-lasting connections.
I know this one seems obvious, but hey, we all forget to do it sometimes, especially if you find yourself stuck in a lonely funk.
"Many surface-level acquaintances never move to a deeper connection because nobody takes the initiative to deepen the relationship," says Bennett.
But someone has to be the one to move your friendship to the next level, so why not be that someone? Ask your co-worker to join you for drinks after work, Bennett suggests, or invite the cool person you met on the subway platform to grab brunch with you sometime.
"Someone has to initiate," the counselor explains, "and yeah, believe they will say 'yes' and want to do it."