I recently went on a date with a guy who liked La La Land, which is pretty much my least favorite movie of all time. We actually got in an argument about it over dinner. Did this mean we weren't destined to be together? Well, he must have thought so, because we haven't talked since. But it brought up a good question: What are some questions to ask your crush on a first date, so you can find out whether or not you're truly compatible? You know, so you don't find out a year into your relationship that you and your partner vary in opinion on important movies and TV shows (or other super important things).
Well, I guess it all comes down to figuring out if you're compatible in a day-to-day, real-life sense. When and if you start doing couple-y things, would you actually like doing them together? If you like flea markets and your partner likes heavy metal concerts, your relationship may not work out in the long run, unless both of you are really willing to compromise. Either that, or you'll be spending a lot of time apart.
So here are some questions you can ask your crush to figure out whether or not you might have a future together. Because if you don't like the same TV shows and movies, then what else is there to life, right?
1. What Is Your Favorite TV Show?
Ask your crush what kind of TV shows they like to watch. It will probably give you some good insight into their personality. Do they like true crime docs? Dramas? Comedies? Reality TV? These all give off a very different vibe.
Maybe they don't watch TV at all, and instead, they're the reading type, which can either be great or annoying, depending on whether or not they look down on your obsession with Real Housewives.
2. Do You Like Horror Movies?
This question is a good way to test your compatibility and actually gives more insight into the other person than you might think. This might seem surprising, but according to OkCupid, if you want to know if you and your partner have what it takes to survive long term, you should ask them if they enjoy scary movies. Why? Well, it gives you a good look into their personality. Someone who likes horror movies might also be attracted to other forms of adrenaline rushes, or they may be risk takers in life in general.
3. What's Your Favorite Way To Spend A Weekend?
If you're a homebody, and your crush is a party animal, then it's probably not a match made in heaven. Find out early on how your crush likes to spend their free time. Because if you're in a relationship, you're going to be spending a good chunk of your free time together.
4. If You Could Travel Anywhere, Where Would You Go?
I am a lay-out-and-lounge kind of gal. I also like a museum or a good restaurant. But you know what I don't want to do? Go zip-lining through the jungle or take a zillion-mile hike through a glacier. I have also realized with time that camping is just not for me. I don't like dirt, and I enjoy clean bathrooms.
So ask your potential partner what their dream vacay looks like. If you're thinking tanning while they're thinking tents, you might have a problem on your hands... or at least some compromising to do.
5. What Is Your Family Like?
If you're going to be in a relationship with someone, then you need to be compatible with their family as well. So on a date, I always like to ask what someone's family is like. Personally, I know that I would never get along with someone who comes from a strict, conservative upbringing. I have tattoos, a bizarre sense of humor, and essentially lack all sorts of boundaries. So if my significant other and his fam are proper in any way, then a relationship between us would never work out.
So if you want to find out if you and your crush are compatible, maybe ask them a few of these questions. Depending on their answer, you might have a great future ahead of you.
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