Marriage is a wildly confusing institution. It's lovely, and beautiful, and one of the most magical bonds two people can share. But — to those of us who are not ready for marriage (yes hello I am president of the club) — it's also pretty freaking terrifying.
I mean, you are literally latching yourself onto another person forever. Until death (or divorce) do you part. Sharing duvet covers, cold symptoms, and the last of your Nutella — no matter what. It's... a lot. And, in case you hadn't realized, it's not a commitment one should take lightly.
Personally, I am years (possibly decades... potentially centuries?) away from getting married. Like, I'm the type of single that prompts my grandmother to ask if I "ever crave male company" on a monthly basis. But if you're in a serious relationship that's headed towards marriage, you might be looking for signs that you're 100 percent ready to say, "I do."
Truthfully, the only sign you really need is your own intuition. If you don't feel completely ready and comfortable at the thought of committing to your partner ~forever~, definitely don't allow yourself to be pressured into making that decision. (In other words, don't pull an Arie Luyendyk, Jr., guys.)
But sometimes, it's so easy to get caught up in the thought of planning Pinterest weddings, picking out bridesmaids' dresses, and selecting honeymoon destinations that the trickier, stickier parts of marriage might slip your mind. Which, TB-totally-H, is probably why the divorce rate is so freaking high in this country (around 50 percent).
So, if you've caught your partner browsing rings and are searching for signs that you are — or are not — ready to get married, look no further. I chatted with Anita Chlipala, a licensed marriage and family therapist to unearth the top three signs that you may not be prepared just yet. (Which, for the record, is completely OK! You have to move at your own pace.)