Getting married can be a really big step in a relationship. I know that's not exactly a hot take, but the fact is that it can be a big deal. It's exciting and scary and wonderful and all of the other adjectives. Thankfully, there are ways to make it a little less intimidating, and that's by having some very real conversations beforehand to make sure that you and your future spouse are on the same page about the big things. How do you even start those kinds of talks, though? It helps to have a few questions to ask your partner about marriage that will naturally spur them, and will also help you get down to the deeper answers that really matter.
Apart from helping with some premarital jitters, Dr. Gary Brown, a prominent marriage counselor in Los Angeles, tells Elite Daily these conversations are vital. "You and your partner are getting ready to potentially spend the rest of your lives together. It certainly makes a great deal of sense to gain some deeper understanding of who you are and who they are before taking the next step — well before you are even engaged," he explains. "You also need to be prepared to realize that the person you are thinking about marriage with may actually turn out not to be a good match for you. Or you for them. In either case, it is far better to learn these things well in advance of any commitment to living together or getting engaged."
Here is what Dr. Brown recommends asking your partner to help get the two of you on the same page pre-marriage.