If your conversations with your crush are starting to feel a little stale, try asking them "this or that" questions to inject some life back into your text thread. The beauty of a "this or that" question is that, in addition to just being a really fun way to pass the time, it's a fantastic low-stakes way to really get to know someone. If you agree on a particular answer, great — you've just discovered something in common. But if you disagree? Hashing out your differences can be pretty entertaining. (P.S. For optimal flirting potential, scroll down to the question about French kisses versus French fries. Their answer will be very telling.)
For those of you wishing you had a smooth opening line to text your crush, I got you covered. What better way to strike up a question with your crush than by sending them a fun "this or that" question?! Spoiler: The answer is none. There is no better way. A simple "hey" is boring and no longer cuts it around here.
So, when you're ready to kick your conversation up a notch, these questions will have your back.
In other words, are they more East Coast fancy or West Coast casual?
Very important if you're a Swift stan or a Kardashian fan.
Snacks are important.
Are they more old-school or modern?
Honestly, there's no wrong answer here.
This question is two-fold. First, are they a rom-com person or a mob movie person? Second, are they the type of person who's willing to invest four hours in a movie?
How can you even consider dating someone without knowing their stance on Jessica?
These are the sorts of questions that need answering.
Here's a quick way to learn what they care about.
Are they more kickboxing or Pilates? Pop art or Greek sculptures?
I, personally, prefer House Party for the games. But, hey, maybe your crush loves the way everyone's faces float around on FaceTime.
Very important for if and when you one day get hungry for some late night food with them.
Flirty! But also, like, an actually tough question.
One of the more difficult questions for any big Friends fans out there. On the one hand, Joey and Chandler's apartment would objectively be more fun. But Rachel and Monica's would definitely be cleaner and more organized. What does your crush prefer? Messy fun or clean order?
Wicked tough.
Then ask why! Lots of intel here on their values.
In other words, they have some musical bones in their body or are they just trying to be famous?
Both are great. No wrong answer here.
If you guys do wind up in a relationship, this is great intel on how to make them feel better when they're feeling down. Are they the type of person who's going to perk up with some jokes or do they need a soulful chat to get them through tough times?
OK, now go forth and ask away.
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