When you first fall in love with somebody, the two of you want to touch one another constantly. You might even find it hard to believe that somebody so perfect and flawless would want you to touch them. What's even more unbelievable is, when time passes, and you discover that you both aren't actually perfect, you still want to touch each other anyway. But even if the fondness is still there, familiarity isn't necessarily the most powerful aphrodisiac. Having some sexts to send in a long-term relationship when you need to spice things up is one of the secrets to reinvigorating your sex life when you have been dating so long, you don't have a trace of mystery between you anymore.
If you are in a long-term relationship now, then you probably have some idea about what your partner likes and doesn't like. While recharging your sexual chemistry will definitely benefit from the element of surprise, your sexts should not venture into territory that you know for a fact will make your partner uncomfortable. Crossing boundaries isn't a turn-on. If you can push your partner's imagination without violating their comfort zone, then you've reached the totally hot sweet spot of sexting. Here are some tips to get you started.
1. Tell Them You Can't Get Enough
Maybe you've been together for years and years, but you can still let your partner know that, even with all the time in the world, sex with them would never get old.
2. Tell Them You Can't Get Them Out Of Your Mind
Sexting your partner means that you're thinking about them when you are apart. Let them know how intense your attraction is to them, even when they aren't in the same room.
3. Take Some Direction
If you've been feeling distant from your partner lately, then switching up the power dynamic and putting them in control of their pleasure can definitely reinvigorate your sext life and reestablish your connection.
4. Tell Them Your Plans
When you're in a long-term relationship, you can get so used to one another that you forget how important it is to dote upon your partner in bed. Bring that reverent energy back when you spice up your sexts.
5. Make A Pun
Double entendres and puns can be delivered super smoothly if you've got the right skill — and even if you don't. The good news about sexting when you're in a long-term relationship? They're not going to break up with you for making a lame joke.
6. Use New Imagery
When you're fantasizing about your loved one, more things happen to your body than getting hard or wet. You don't have to draw upon tired old tropes just to let your partner know how they make your body feel.
7. Tell Them How Impatient You Are
Anticipation is infectious. When you tell your partner that you literally cannot wait until the next time you're with them, it will make them all nervous, fluttery, and excited to see you, too — even if you already see each other three nights a week.
8. Tell Them What You Want
If you're having trouble coming up with what you want, think back to something tender or particularly intimate they did when you were first dating and ask them to do that to you again.
9. Plead For Mercy
Your desperation is totally adorable, and since you've been together for a while, your long-term partner already knows all about your attachment issues, so you have nothing to fear.
10. Encourage Out-Of-Body Experiences
The most powerful sexual connection happens in your mind, so if you have any sex dreams about your lover, you should definitely share them and try to bring them into your waking life, too. It'll create a stronger psychic and soulful kinship, and it basically means you get to date your dream person. What could be sexier than that?
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