I read an excellent tidbit from author Louise L. Hay that stated,
Love comes when we least expect it, when we are not looking for it. Hunting for love never brings the right partner. It only creates longing and unhappiness. Love is never outside ourselves; love is within us. Don’t insist that love comes immediately. Perhaps you are not ready for it.
I realized that searching brings about intense suffering because it entails being outside of the present moment. Whichever chapter or season you find yourself in right now, know that it is where you are supposed to be.
We all want success, love and prosperity — all of the good stuff. We all want it, but when we search, we leave our own realm of reality.
It’s as if you tried to use a movie theater's emergency exit, but when you walked out and the door closed behind you, you realized you were on the other side of the building.
You tried to quickly escape, but it ended up being an epic fail because you had to hike even farther around the building. It’s dark and nothing looks familiar, so your sense of direction is all discombobulated.
We replicate this scenario in life because we seek instant gratification. We want to fall in love, so we meet that guy or girl at the bar and things seem to be too good to be true. Then, we find out a couple of months later that it was too good to be true.
Our desires were screaming so loudly that we overlooked the reality of the situation and took that exit because, well, we saw those big, bold, red letters giving us direction.
We all lack patience from time to time; what we think we need, we need immediately.
However, life has its own clockwork, and it’s not always in accordance with our personal timeframe. We may think we are ready to fall in love or land that job, but maybe, it didn’t happen because it just isn’t our time. One day, it will be.
Don’t be so insistent on changing your circumstances right now. Know what you want and wait for it. Don’t struggle by searching for it because you may take a wrong exit.
We should appreciate every circumstance and moment in life for several reasons. One is that life is intricately designed to prepare us for what’s to come.
So, learn to enjoy the ups and downs because they are meant specifically for you.
If your emotions are a pure reflection of what is currently in your life, you will never learn how to conquer hardships. I’m not saying you should not feel down at times.
We all have inevitable moments of grief; however, you should feel those emotions and grieve when you must, but never be controlled by them.
Make sure to accept and go through the process of feeling, just as much as you accept to move on.
Life will bring circumstances that are out of any of our control, so there is no point in running, fighting, freezing or taking the nearest exit. Just allow the moment to exist as it is and know that it will serve a purpose in the future.
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