Moving to a new city can be daunting, especially if you don't know anyone. As easy as it can be for Netflix to become your new best friend, I'm sure you typically don't want to go to a bar or to brunch alone.
So, you have to make friends. But how? Unfortunately, adulting isn't like college. Making new friends and meeting new people can be hard.
Luckily, even though you may not find your best friend immediately, it's not hard to get someone you get along with to grab a drink with you.
Sometimes, friendships form in small ways. So, if you're looking for friends, try these methods:
Your best bet at forming friendships is going to be through work. You're going to spend 40-plus hours a week with these people. So, chances are, someone in your office will have the same interests you have.
Don't count out the colleagues who are older than you, as they may have other friends. They can also provide you with networking opportunities.
Take every possibility to get lunch with your co-workers. Maybe grab a coffee together during the day.
But most importantly, meet up after work. That's literally what happy hour is for. The more you start hanging out with your co-workers, the more you'll meet their friends.
In the meantime, they might just be your "work friends." But that's still better than having no friends.
If you live in an apartment building or a neighborhood, you're going to have neighbors. It wouldn't hurt you to meet them.
If your neighbors are old, they might be nice enough to invite you over for dinner. If your neighbors are younger than you are, congratulations: You just found someone to go to the bar with.
If that isn't an option, you can at least drink at your apartment together while you watch Netflix. Having cool neighbors can be a total blessing.
But you won't know unless you meet them.
Ah yes, the gym: You will absolutely make friends here.
It's easy: Just join a class. If you take a yoga class every day, you're going to see the same people every day.
Eventually, once you've gone to the same class long enough, these will be the people you talk to before and after class. You can set up next to them during class.
Also, who knows? One day, maybe you can go for frozen yogurt after class. But even if you don't make new friends while going to the gym, know that you'll at least be getting a workout in.
Volunteering is hands down one of the easiest ways to meet people. For one, it gathers a group of people who are all passionate about the same thing. This means it's likely that they'll share some more of your interests.
If you volunteer every weekend with the same organization, you'll naturally meet and get to know the people involved. It's even better for you to join a national organization. That way, if you move again, you'll already have an organization you can continue volunteering for.
If you're a recent graduate, know that your alumni network is huge. It probably expands to cities all over the country.
Make it a point to reach out to your school, and ask it to put you in touch with the alumni network in your city. From there, meet as many alumni as you can.
The last thing you probably want to do is meet people online. But you'd be surprised how easy it is to make friends in this way.
Join a Facebook group in your city. It might be called something silly like "Singles In NYC" or "Jazz Lovers Of Boston," but if you search hard enough, you can easily find these groups. Go to the events they post.
Honestly, if you're desperate enough, there's always Tinder. You may not make great friends – or any friends really – but at least you'll have some fun stories.
You're not going to be alone forever. Eventually, you'll make friends.
But in the meantime, don't be afraid to go to places and do things by yourself. You may even make friends by doing that.