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How To Know When To Make Changes To Your Dating Profile

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Maintaining a healthy and successful dating life is essentially a second career you don't get health benefits from.

I don't remember the last time I made a romantic connection with someone in a bar, coffee shop or even a free health clinic, so more often than not, I turn to the phone apps at my fingertips.

Swiping isn't child's play. It takes a whole lot of work and a pretty large attention span in order to keep up with the constantly changing faces.

And, on top of picking and choosing people solely based off of looks, you also need to ensure they'll actually pick you back.

That involves an aesthetically pleasing, top-notch profile.

Now, I've been stuck in plenty of ruts filled with lackluster matches or no matches at all. It happens. That being said, it's a moment like that that signifies a change must be made.

Unless you take the initiative, you'll sit in a dark dating abyss that leaves you scraping the bottom of your Ben & Jerry's pint with nothing but your cats for all eternity.

Just being honest. Sorry 'bout it.

Here are some things that happen while looking for love that will signal it's time to revamp your dating profile.

You can thank me later.

No one is popping up in your area.

You've swiped, and swiped and swiped, and you've seemed to exhaust all your options.

Maybe one new person pops up a day, and odds are, they get a swift slide to the left. This may be a clear sign that you need to expand on that radius of yours.

I used to keep things tight and intimate by setting my profile to only a 5-mile radius, but I soon realized I was making things more difficult for myself.

After upping the ante to a wide 15, more people showed up. And in turn, I landed myself some more dates.

Don't be scared to use your legs.

Maintaining a successful dating life is essentially a second career you don't get health benefits from.

All of your conversations are dry and boring.

Filling a profile with witty dialogue or inspirational quotes can be tiresome, so more often than not, people leave their Instagram handle and a call it a day. (If I can't get a date, I'm at least getting followers.)

When you finally land a match and start conversing, things never progress further than casual conversation about where you're from and family history. Can you get more boring than that?

If this is the case, try adding something of value to your bio. Describe yourself, ask a question or leave something that will ensure your new match will want to know more.

It's good to keep 'em guessing.

Strangers seem to be judging your style.

So, you have no issue reeling in new fish, but they always seem to want to jump ship quickly after conversation begins.

Maybe it's something you said, or maybe they took the time to do a sweep through your six selected photos... and that's when it went downhill.

Swiping isn't child's play.

After further creeping of your other social media platforms (because that's a thing, I do it all the time), they've concluded you're using photos that are out-of-date and out-of-style. Keep everything on your profile fresh, including your look.

Include a variety of anything within the last few months, including solo shots, proof that you leave the confines of your bed and that you enjoy social interaction.

You just aren't matching with... anyone.

You've hit a wall. Despite countless efforts, you haven't matched with a new person in weeks.

It's no one's fault. Things just aren't clicking. And after months of swiping, it's time you to start fresh. When it gets to this point, it's OK to revamp your dating profile completely and start again with a clean slate.

Combine all of the above efforts with a new main photo, an expanded range and an open mind, and you're bound to see some change in your life.

It's hard to make it through the dating jungle sometimes, I know. All you need is the right tools.