How Long Should You Wait After Ending A Relationship To Date Someone Else?
It was reported this morning that Lea Michele and her boyfriend, actor Robert Buckley, split after just a few months of dating.
As my editor very accurately pointed out, no one really cares about any other celebrity couple right now because Hiddleswift has taken the world by storm. But let's look at Lea Michele's dating timeline for a minute:
Lea Michele dated Cory Monteith for two years, right up until his unfortunate death (RIP, Cory). About a year later, Lea met Matthew Paetz on the set of one of her music videos. Lea herself said that Paetz "miraculously" came into her life after the death of her beloved Monteith.
Lea and Paetz seriously dated from April 2014 to February of this year. Then, in May, Lea met Robert Buckley, which means she was single for a whole two months after a super serious relationship before jumping into a new one (and I'm going to call the Buckley thing a "relationship" because she made it Instagram official).
Two months being single? Two months? Come on. If you ask me, that just isn't enough time to be OK with being on your own. You still miss the person after two months of not seeing him. And you definitely can't develop real feelings for someone else until you've completely abandoned the feelings for an ex.
But while we're on the subject of Hiddleswift, can we talk about how ludicrous it is to go from a 15-month, serious relationship right into another "serious" relationship? I didn't think that was healthy (or humanly possible).
And Hiddleswift isn't the first whirlwind romance. A while back, I did a write-up on tried-and-true relationship hopper, Kylie Jenner. She briefly dated PartyNextDoor after dating Tyga, but then ended up going back to Tyga.
Is it just me, or do a lot of these celebs move from one person to the next really quickly? I'm lucky if I can find one guy I like enough to commit to over the course of a few years. But maybe I'm not doing it right. Maybe I'm waiting too long to jump back in the game, which is only further hurting my chances of learning how to commit.
The golden question is: How long should you wait after breaking up with someone to start dating a new person?
I often question if I'm living life right because I haven't been in a serious relationship in a while. But if Lea and Kylie's romantic situations are any indication, diving into a full-on relationship right after ending a serious one doesn't necessarily mean the new relationship is going to last. The case of Hiddleswift remains to be seen, but something tells me that's a fluke.
I don't have a definitive answer for you guys. I wish I did. Everyone operates differently. Someone might need six months to get over a three-year relationship, while someone else may need an entire year to get over a relationship that lasted just as long.
Charlotte York says it takes half the time you dated someone to get over them. My friends say just a month is enough time, and my mom says not to date again until I feel "right." What's my thought on the matter? Don't be conscious of passing time. Go about your life as if you'll never find someone... and you'll find him.