I like going into my first dates full of optimism.
Usually, I get first dates through Tinder. Things are typically set up just a few short days after matching and texting, so as to save any conversation points we may lose going back and forth on the app.
Clearly, my initial interest in this person is solely based on looks, but personality plays a big part in deciding whether or not I'm game for round two.
If I do have even the slightest interest in a second date, I won't want to hook up on the first. I like to keep it in my pants until at least the third date so there's no confusion about what I'm there for.
But just because I don't want to show you my dong, it doesn't mean all affection is out of the question.
I want that goodnight kiss.
The anticipation when you're about to say goodbye — questioning if a hug or handshake is appropriate because you're not sure if you're on the same page — those are some of the best and worst feelings in the world.
When you're both lingering close to one another and one of you finally leans in for the first kiss, your whole body warms up. You try not to grin giddily while their lips touch yours, but it's inevitable. They kissed you, and it feels so, so good.
If you've ever questioned whether or not your date wants to kiss you, don't stress.
Here are five in-your-face signs you have the green light to lock lips on the first date.
Sign 1: You move from your first location.
You've just knocked back a couple of margaritas and a healthy helping of fish tacos.
Though you're having an unexpected amount of fun, you presumed that after paying the check your night would end with you curled up in bed watching last week's episode of "Survivor." Turns out, Jeff Probst will have to wait.
Right as you were about to head toward the subway, he asks if you're still down to hang out — maybe for another drink somewhere else.
If he's willing to put in more time with you, especially on a first date, something is clearly going right. This is a surefire sign your attempt at a kiss won't be rejected.
Sign 2: You see him put on an obscene amount of ChapStick.
Sure, I may increase my moisturizer routine to keep up with the cold, winter months, but let's be real: ChapStick has a very unique purpose.
If I'm applying it to my lips, it's because I want them feeling soft, smooth and downright kissable.
If your rendezvous is about to come to an end and in the last 15 minutes of the movie, he's whipped out his 'stick at least three times, prepare yourself.
I can guarantee you he's probably coming in for that big smooch at some point or another, so it's totally cool to beat him to the punch. Kiss the boy!
Sign 3: You keep touching each other.
Like a kid with a kindergarten crush, touching is a very good sign of romantic intentions.
Hand-holding may be a thing commonly seen in movie theaters, but that doesn't mean it's uncommon to get casual, touchy-feely vibes on a first date in some other way.
If he's eager to show his interest (aside from great conversation), he may reach for or graze your hand or shoulder in hopes you'll get even the slightest hint he's into you.
Guys may like playing hard to get, but if he's anything like me, he'll be eager to show he already likes you.
And he'll hope you'll be up for returning the favor.
Sign 4: You're both a little drunk.
Not everyone likes to be super traditional when they go out with someone.
Dinner is cool, but spontaneity and those out-of-the-box dates always end up being so much better. If you've opted for something like a wine tasting or a night of drinks and dancing, odds are, you'll be feeling a little more loose than usual.
And that's OK!
I'm not saying blacking out is the way to go, but a drink or two can definitely help get rid of those dreaded first-date nerves. If you're vibing, be bold and make that move.
Blame it on the goose, guys.
Sign 5: You allow him to walk you home.
The night's finally come to an end.
Because you're sort of lazy and picked a spot convenient for your post-date travel, your apartment is only mere blocks away.
Even though you're also located near a hub of subway stations, he decides to escort you to your door like the gentleman he appears to be.
I've been in this situation a few times, and since I'm on the other end of the lazy spectrum, I would not walk someone I had no interest in seeing again if it meant inconveniencing myself.
If your date is willing to go out of their way for you, it's not necessarily because they want to get in your pants (at least on encounter number one) — they just want a kiss!
Making that move at someone's door is a classic go-to, and frankly, should be done a hell of a lot more.
And though Will Smith's performance in "Hitch" wasn't exactly Oscar-worthy, it did teach us a valuable dating tip when it comes to that first date kiss: They go 90 percent and you go 10.
Learn to live by it.
By now, you've definitely had more than a few green lights. So go in for the kill!