Should I Hook Up With My Tinder Match? 5 Questions To Ask Yourself Before You Do
When you think about it, we put our complete trust in men we meet on Tinder, just because we find them physically attractive and they matched a certain age range and location that we were interested in.
That, at a very basic level, doesn't make a lot of sense. When you really start to think about it, this is a complete stranger whom you're meeting off of your phone.
Online dating is something that almost everyone does now, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't do it safely. Just because someone has a phone and the app store, doesn't mean they're necessarily a good person.
So if you're trying to decide if you should hook up with that random guy you met on Tinder, it's important that you ask yourself a few things first.
Here are some questions you should ask yourself before hooking up with that random Tinder match to keep yourself out of harm's way and make sure you're safe.
1. Has He Been Tested?
Before you have sex with someone, it's important to make sure you know if they have any STDs, whether or not you plan on using protection. (You should definitely use protection.)
Tinder actually has an STD testing locator on the app, so you can make sure you're both infection free before you hook up. If you're unsure where to make an appointment, you can use the app you literally met on to find locations nearest both of you to get tested. How romantic!
Believe me, there is nothing less hot than contracting chlamydia from a potential one-night stand.
2. Is He A Murderer?
OK, so maybe he's not a murderer, but it's important to make sure that the stranger you are about to have sex with will, in no way, harm you — whether that be emotionally or physically.
Sometimes, this can just be a gut feeling. (Women have a strong intuition, after all.)
But if you have mutual friends, it's great to ask about your date's reputation prior to going out with him. Additionally, I'm a big fan of googling or looking at a man's social media before being intimate with him.
Worse than being a murderer, what if he's been to Burning Man? That's a huge deal breaker for me!
Another good idea my friends and I used to do is take a picture of our date and/or his license plate, and send it to one another if we were planning on going home with him. This way, there was some level of accountability should anything bad end up happening — although, hopefully, nothing bad will happen.
3. How Drunk Are You?
If you're too drunk, don't hook up.
Our drunk selves make decisions our sober selves potentially would not. You don't want to wake up in the morning with regrets about a guy you might not see ever again.
If you either like or are lustful toward your date, but you've knocked back a few too many, you can always schedule another date to consummate your relationship.
Plus, hanging out again is always better than the emotional hangover you get from regretting sleeping with a guy you really wish you hadn't.
4. What's Their Information?
This might sound silly, but recently, I realized that I had been dating a guy from Bumble for a month and had no idea what his last name was.
I mean, it happens! Only their first names are listed, and sometimes, you forget to have the conversation, "So, what is your last name?" It seriously had never come up.
But before you hook up with someone — anyone — make sure you know information about them, should anything happen. What is their full name? Their number? What area do they live in? Even potentially knowing what kind of car they drive could be helpful.
You don't necessarily have to explicitly ask for their address and license plate number, but women are some of the best private investigators around, and you can put some clues together from your conversations.
Just make sure you know this person's full name, as well as contact information. Otherwise, you're having sex with a complete stranger, which is dangerous.
5. Are You Sure You Want To Have Sex?
Do you want to have sex with this guy, or do you feel obligated to?
If you feel obligated to have sex with your date, then the answer is obvious: Don't have sex with him.
But listen, women need to get laid, too. So if you want to have a one-night stand, or sleep with that rando you met on Tinder on the first date, then by all means, do it.
But when it comes to hooking up with a stranger, make sure you're doing it safely.
Because the last thing you want to do is put yourself in harm's way with a guy you thought was cute, just because he was standing in front of a Ferrari or had pictures with his adorable nephews.