You Should Never Feel Guilty If You Want To Have Sex On The First Date

by Alexandra Hourigan

OK, I'm about to open up a whole can of truth on your ass, and it's going to be mind-blowing.

Brace yourself.

Whether or not you have sex on the first date is a continuous argument held by many – mostly females – as they posses the ultimate fear that after they give it up, their love interests are going to walk away.

Here is why that misconception is wrong.

1. Don't make sex a competition.

Sex is not a reward. You shouldn't dangle it in front of another human being. You're pretty much bribing the person and saying if he or she sticks around longer, he or she will win the ultimate "prize."

See what I mean? By doing so, you're creating a competition. Once it is won, there is still a chance this person will get up and leave you.

No one likes the saying, "Good things come to those who wait."

No one likes waiting. That pretty much never happens. And no one comes at all.


The problem is, there are always going to be some bad eggs. There are always going to be those people who just need to "let off some steam," and they'll use you to do it.

Should you feel bad about it? Fuck no.

You're a human being with sexual needs, and if it didn't work, then do you really want to get serious with a person like that anyway?

Didn't think so.

Sex does not always need to be about emotion. Sometimes, it's purely just attraction, and that is 100 percent FINE.

2. You have nothing to feel guilty about.

The sad thing is, most people feel guilty about having sex on the first date. They feel sleeping with someone on the first date makes the person a "slut" or that the person will think less of them.


According to Thought Catalog, 75 percent of men would not be turned off by a girl who sleeps with them on the first date.

Ladies, you need to feel empowered by sex. You need to feel confident by sex.

You need to feel like you're a damn goddess who just graced a man with the greatest gift on earth.

If ANYONE makes you feel dirty or low due to that, fuck these people because their brains obviously didn't evolve.

3. Chemistry is key.

Say you've been seeing someone for a few months. You think you've gotten to know each other, and that things are going well.

You enjoy seeing this person, so you thought you guys might have sex. After a lovely evening, you go back to your place (or his) and do the deed.

It was the worst experience of your entire life.

Now, I'm not saying that's going to happen every single time. However, everyone has different needs, wants and desires.

You could enjoy a little love-making, whereas they're a bit more "Fifty Shades Of Grey," if you know what I mean.

Basically, we need to stop overthinking it. Sex on the first date does not have a stigma around it. Every single relationship and interaction is different.

Stop worrying about whether this person will call you, or if you'll look bad for doing it.

If you WANT to sleep with someone on the first date, the only person who could possibly stand in the way of that is you.

So honey, go shave those legs, buy some sexy lingerie and get some.