Ah, ghosting. It's the dating phenomenon that happens when people are too cowardly to actually end things with the people they've been seeing, so they choose to just… disappear instead.
Ghosters are idiots. But if you've ever been ghosted, know that you're not alone.
In this weekly column, I share a tale of a time a reader was ghosted (with accompanying screenshots) so you can see the last text that was sent or words that were uttered before someone decided to disappear forever. I present to you: Boom, Ghosted.
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More than a week ago, my boyfriend moved across the country. He was going to drive to the new city. He said he was going to text me when he got there.
After a few days, I decided to text him and see if he was OK. I didn't hear from him for a while. Finally, I told him to just text me even just a word to know he's still alive. He texted me, "I'm alive!" and I didn't hear from him again after a few days.
I decided to send him GIFs on Facebook (because that's what we did). He texted me and said he was working. I was surprised (and a little hurt) when I found out he arrived in the new city days before he finally texted me, because he promised me he would let me know. I told him I had been really worried about him. He apologized and then told me he would talk to me later because he was going out with his new co-workers.
And that was the last I heard from him. I don't know what happened. I tried calling him but he never answered. I texted him a lot, but still got no replies. I messaged him on Facebook, but nothing — he didn't even read them. I know he didn't block me because his phone would still ring. He just never answered. It's only been a few days. I am still freaking out because maybe something happened to him... but it's obvious he's ghosting me. I can't believe he is that kind of person, someone who would never even say goodbye.
OK, I only have one theory that makes this guy not a horrendous human being. MAYBE he tried to break up with her in a super vague way, she didn't realize they were broken up, and it was just a classic misunderstanding. But even in that case, I would have to assume someone who wasn't clear about a breakup was sort of cowardly.
Anyway, that's best case scenario. Worst case scenario is that this dude really is a total jerk who didn't bother breaking up with his girlfriend because he knew he was moving across the country and could easily ghost her once he did so.
What do you guys think is the case? Comment your thoughts below!
*Names have been changed.
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