About a year ago, I decided to start Elite Daily's popular weekly "Boom, Ghosted" column, where dozens of people submitted their own personal accounts of times they were ghosted to me every week. Needless to say, I've heard my fair share of stories about being ghosted. I've seen how ghosting affects people when they're left hurt, confused, and heartbroken without any explanation.
But why do people ghost? While we constantly hear stories about people being ghosted, we seldom have the chance to see the point of view of the people on the other side — the ghosters. In recent Reddit threads, however, men and women shed light on why people ghost and what exactly is going on inside people's minds when they decide to do it.
The person they ghosted couldn't take "no" for an answer.
This person didn't feel like an explanation was necessary.
This person just wasn't into it anymore.
They didn't want to hurt her feelings.
This person felt the girl they ghosted could do better.
This person would ghost if they reached their breaking point with toxic behavior.
She ghosted a guy because he wanted her to choose between him and her family.
This person would only ghost if they suddenly had a change of heart.
If someone wanted me to choose between them and my FAMILY, I'd probably ghost them, too, but other than that, I don't really condone any of these reasons.
Even if you think the person's too good for you, if you're afraid of hurting them, or if you're just sort of over them, the very least you owe someone you were romantically connected with is an explanation as to why you don't want to keep things going.
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