Ah, ghosting. It's the dating phenomenon that happens when people are too cowardly to actually end things with the people they've been seeing, so they choose to just… disappear instead.
Ghosters are idiots. But if you've ever been ghosted, know that you're not alone.
In this weekly column, I share a tale of a time a reader was ghosted (with accompanying screenshots) so you can see the last text that was sent or words that were uttered before someone decided to disappear forever. I present to you: Boom, Ghosted.
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This week we have Marcia* who was ghosted by a guy she thought really liked her after she explicitly told him not to ghost her:
I've been ghosted at least three times in the past, but this guy in particular really made me believe he actually liked me. We went on a few dates, he kept saying how much he liked me, and we kissed. So I was there, thinking this was going great and that this guy really liked me. But he actually ended up ghosting me... twice. The first time he stopped texting me back, he didn't reply until a few days later, when I sent an angry text basically telling him he's a horrible person. I deleted that thread, but I do remember telling him it was incredibly rude for him to ghost me, after I had told him that a guy ghosted me in the past.
He then told me that 'something happened,' and we sat down and talked it through. After that, everything was fine for just three days. But he disappeared again, and I have yet to hear from him. Our last conversation involved us trying to figure out a day to hang out and comparing our work schedules. But i got nothing. I was hurt. I just don't understand how someone can go from talking to a person every day to deciding to never text that person again.
We've seen this happen before, you guys. Guy ghosts girl. Guy then un-ghosts her by talking to her again... only to ghost her again.
I just don't get it!! WHY? Have you done this? Has this happened to you? Whatever the case, comment your thoughts below.
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*Names have been changed.