When searching for that special someone, it’s always good to have an image of what he should be like. See, I didn’t start out by coaching women in their love lives, I started out with men. It’s funny when I think about it because what women want from a man is what I was trying to teach them all along.
In reality, looking for a guy that has these qualities is not that FARFETCHED as most men without these qualities say/believe. But, if you want to have a higher chance of finding love, identify the ones that matter most to you and STICK with them. In my personal opinion, all men should have these qualities and I don’t associate nor do I respect the ones that lack them.
He Is A Gentleman
A great guy needs to be polite, respectful, considerate and attentive to a woman’s needs. This also includes the classic gentleman behavior such as pulling a woman’s chair, walking on the car side of the street, taking her coat, etc. I personally believe that if all men were gentlemen, we would live in a better world. Today, things are not like that, making the guys that have this quality stand out. Also, great guys never cross the line of being inappropriate.
He Is Direct
Many men believe that if they constantly have this “whatever” attitude, women will suddenly fall in love with them. This is complete bogus, would you like to spend time with a guy that dodges direct questions and moves his shoulders instead of giving an answer? A great guy should look straight into your eyes when he is talking to you, he needs to look and seem genuinely interested in what you have to say. He must have good diction whilst engaging in a conversation with an active attitude. Any guy that isn’t direct, is weak. You shouldn’t settle for weak.
He Is Faithful
Faithfulness may be one of the most important characteristics when it comes to great men. Although you can never know for sure if this is the case or not, if you know he’s been a cheater, it’s best to stay away from him.
On a different note…a recent study revealed that around 60% of men cheat at least once in their lives so the only thing you can do to make sure he won’t do it in the future is to try and keep him sexually satisfied. Men don’t cheat because they don’t feel loved anymore, they cheat because they need sex. Some men need to sleep with other women (and if you get one of these guys, you can’t do much) while others cheat because the sex is gone in the relationship. Keeping a healthy sexual relationship is the best thing you can do to keep your man faithful.
He Has Integrity
Having integrity is another very important characteristic that makes a great man. This means he will stay true to his word and true to himself. If he tells you that he is going to do something, he will do it. I believe that integrity and ambition are enough to convince you that this man will eventually be financially sound, even if he isn’t.
This is also the kind of guy you can rely on, knowing that he will always be there for you. Men with integrity are highly respected and in return they give respect to others. They may require you to be worthy of their respect before they offer it to you because of their high moral compass, they want others to share their values. Also, these men often show courage because they are required to stand up for their beliefs at all times.
He Is Honest
Honesty is a great quality every single person should have but it’s often not that easy to find. A real honest man will tell you the truth and not just what you want to hear. An honest man will not use sleazy stories to get away from things or to look good, but he will tell you what he will do and how he feels about something. It’s true that brutal honesty can be offensive sometimes but it’s better to have a guy that tells you the truth than one that fills you with lies.
It’s easy to tell if a guy is honest. If he lies to you, say 2-3 times, it’s very evident that he isn’t. It doesn’t matter what the actual lies are (it can be very small things) as it tells you everything you need to know about his character. A honest man will be genuine and you won’t need to guess about what he is thinking or feeling. Honesty is a great quality for a good man to have.
He Is Mature
Being mature means a man is able to care of himself and he approaches problems in a calm and collected manner. He understands the importance of being a man, being independent and he values what he has. A mature guy doesn’t have to be rich, but needs to know how to handle his money. It’s true that men mature later in life, but I’m sure you had at least one “childish” guy that even though he’s past his 30s still thinks he’s in high school. A mature man knows the time has come to grow up and be an adult.
It’s easy to tell if a guy is mature by the way he lives his life. Ideally he should live by himself but some might still stay with a roommate. He should under no circumstances live with his parents. I’ve been living by myself since the age of 19 and laugh at when I realize just how many of my friends (over 25) still live with their parents.
Also, a mature man will be able to carry himself in a public setting in a respectable manner and understands his adult role. A good man must be mature enough to care for himself and take care of all of his needs on his own.
He Is Self-Confident
A good man will be confident in himself and who he is. This is an important characteristic in a good man because when they are self-confident, they are less likely to change who they are and to stay true to themselves. A man with self-confidence will not be deterred from what he believes to be true and will not be easily pressured into doing things that he does not believe in.
Self-confidence makes a man happy and fun to be around because he will not be constantly questioning himself or others around him.
You will know if a man has self-confidence by how he sees himself because he will have a distinctive set of goals that he has set for himself. He will believe that he is worthy of good things and he will set out to find them. This self-confidence will show through because he will not second guess himself and when he makes decisions, he will be more likely to stick to the decision that he made. Self-confident men are good to be around because they're strong and protective and are able to take care of not just themselves, but those around them.
He Has a Positive Attitude
A good man should have a positive attitude, which may be difficult to find since we live in such a negative society. With a positive attitude, people will want to be around him and to have fun around him. A good man will be happy with his life and the world around him and he will want to look out for others and to help them. Positive people are usually quite different from negative people and they tend to smile and to laugh more.
You will know if a man has a positive attitude by how he carries himself. He will be upbeat and look for the good in things and people. A negative person will always be complaining and seeing the bad side to everything and after a while they can be very hard to be around and they tend to turn you into a negative person also. With a positive man, he will be smiling and always brightening up people’s days. He will be a joy to be around and his happiness should spread to you and you should feel happy when you are around him.
Remember, you don’t have to look for a man that has ALL of these qualities (although that would be ideal). But, stick to the ones that are most important to you and you’ll find Mr. Right sooner than you think.
Alex Matlock | Elite.
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