It's Time To Cut Out The Guy You Keep As Your Backup Guy

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I used to believe it was perfectly fine to keep a guy around just for the attention.

And before you go judging me, I DARE you to look me in the eye and say you've never kept a guy around just for the free drinks and safety of having Plan B in case dying alone starts to seem like a more realistic option.

Whether we like to admit it or not, we've all kept someone around for the attention at one point or another.

Odds are, that point was a pretty low one and that person does deserve a thank you for being there as the slight pick-me-up when you were at your lowest low.

That being said, the time has come to drop that guy and MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE. It's time to tell him goodbye.

Why? Allow me to explain.

The obvious reason is, you're being mean.

Sure, you appreciate what he's doing for your self-esteem, but the fact of the matter remains that you're leading him on and wasting his time.

Stop TORTURING this poor guy. It's time to set him free to find someone who actually gives him the love he deserves.

It's time to set him free to find someone who actually gives him the love he deserves.

Now, if you're a selfish dingus who doesn't really care about giving him the loving he deserves, don't worry! I've got a reason for you too!

Read this next little piece of wisdom carefully...

Real love will never happen if you always have a back-up plan.

You will never be able to be able to fall totally and completely in love if you keep a Plan B around.

As much as I hate this, letting yourself fall in love means letting yourself be vulnerable. That vulnerability is never going to happen if you always have that other guy in the back of your mind as a sort of emotional safety net.

In order to experience that real, all-encompassing, overwhelmingly wonderful kind of love that people write all of your favorite songs and books and movies about, you need to put all of your eggs in one basket.

And that's terrifying. But that feeling where you overcome the terror and realize this person is just as invested as you are is what makes love so wonderful.

You will never — let me repeat: never — experience that sort of love if a little part of you takes solace in knowing that, if it doesn't work out, you'll always have this other guy around for the attention.

Real love will never happen if you always have a back-up plan.

Still not sold on what I'm saying? Try thinking about it in the reverse.

How would you feel if the guy you were in love with was OK with the idea of you two breaking up because he knew there was another girl he could always count on to be there for him?

I'm going to go ahead and guess you wouldn't feel that great.

It's time to learn how to be your own confidence-booster.

You are a smart, independent, cool, hilarious human being. You don't need some guy texting you all the time and buying you free drinks to remind you of that.

Time to get to a place where being alone forever isn't so scary that you need to keep around some dud as a backup plan.