Your Boyfriend Shouldn't Try To Change You
Men are always trying to put their women in check. For some reason, they have this ridiculous notion that we're put on this earth for them to control us. Whether they are trying to tell you what to wear, what to do or how to act, it’s always something.
A man often feels that he is entitled to control his girlfriend because she “represents” him. I’m sorry, but am I your girlfriend or your agent? Not only is it annoying as hell, but it’s also bullsh*t. Of course, there is a difference between trying to change someone and helping them mature. However, it is easy to tell the difference between the guy who cares for you and the guy who is looking to tame you for their own personal benefit.
One of the things a guy feels the need to control is how his girlfriend dresses. Guys love telling their girlfriends that they shouldn’t “dress like a slut” in public. Don’t let him tell you what you can and can’t be wearing. If he tells you that you’re dressed too “slutty” for his liking, let him know that you’re not dressing to please him, or other men, but to please yourself.
You have your own set of values and morals and will dress based on what you think is appropriate. Instead of being jealous that other guys are going to see that you look hot, he should be proud that you’re with him. And if he isn’t, then why the hell is he with you anyway?
I’m sure you’ve all had a guy tell you that you can’t have other guy friends. Yeah right. Any guy that expects you to drop your friends for him is out of his mind. Most men freak out about this because they don’t believe a guy and a girl can be just friends. For men, this may be the case. For us, this is only true when we’re single and desperate.
Let him know that you had friends before him and you plan on keeping them after him. You should never ditch your friends for your boyfriend; you’ll wind up alone in the end. If he has enough respect for or trust in you, he should know you’re not sleeping with them. If he’s too insecure to deal with the fact that you have friends that are guys, then you should re-evaluate your relationship.
Men always try to keep their girlfriend tamed by preventing them from going out and partying “too much.” The funny thing is that this guy probably met you when you were out partying. Let him know that you’re not going to change your lifestyle for him. He met you and decided he liked you as you were, so why is he trying to change you now?
Whatever it is, you should never compromise yourself for a guy. You dressed the way you dressed and acted the way you wanted before he came along. If you need change, you will learn this based on your own experience and it will be on your own terms. He knew what he was getting into when he decided to be with you, so it isn’t fair of him to expect you to change once he has you.
If you find that your boyfriend is guilty of trying to control you, he has issues with himself that he needs to fix before he can be in a relationship with you. Maybe he should find a girl who is stupid enough to change herself to fit his criteria. In the meantime, keep doing you and don’t doubt yourself for a second.
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