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4 Ways Women Are More Like Men Than You Think

There are a lot of generalizations out there about women. As with any sweeping statement, some may have a kernel of truth, while others are vastly overblown.

Perhaps we are, as a general rule, the more emotionally-driven gender. But, do we all trash-talk while getting gel manicures? Sob at the end of rom-coms? Devour Pinkberry like it’s a sacred ritual? Not necessarily.

These traits and behaviors may apply to some (basic) bitches out there, but as a matter of fact, men might be surprised to find that women aren’t all too different in a few fundamental regards.

Truthfully, we have some of the same insecurities, the same desires, the same fears and the same instincts. So, it goes without saying, guys, it’s time to face a few facts:

Sometimes we actually just want sex, not a relationship.

News flash: Not every female you meet is plotting to tag you, sedate you and keep you on a tight leash. In fact, nearly every female I know has, at some point, been solely looking for a casual situation with a guy.

Maybe it’s because we’re working toward a promotion, and so we’re too occupied with our jobs to feel obligated to someone. Or, maybe, it’s because we’re still getting over a previous serious relationship.

Maybe it’s because -- brace yourselves -- we, just like men, are enjoying playing the field. That’s right; you read correctly. Women get also get a rush when we can do whatever, or whoever, we want. Just like men do.

It isn’t to say we approach these scenarios differently. What men often don’t understand is that a woman might be content with casual sex, but the minute she feels like she has no control, the charade is over.

In other words, if the guy is calling all the shots (and making all the booty calls), this originally ideal situation can quickly turn south. So, yes, women are entirely fine with hooking up, no strings attached. All we ask is that you have a little respect. Believe me, it will pay off.

Sometimes, we really don’t want to cuddle.

Once upon a time, a guy who was sleeping over at my apartment for the first time asked me if I liked to cuddle, “Or are you someone that likes to have your space?” I have never been more grateful for an inquiry because, in fact, at that particular moment, all I wanted was the latter.

He seemed a little surprised, as if he wasn’t used to hearing this from a girl. You know how sometimes, the idea of your limbs intertwined with someone else’s, no matter how much you love him or her, just makes your skin crawl? Women feel that way sometimes, too.

There’s a time and place for cuddling, and when both parties are amenable to it, it can be downright delightful. But there are times, even after an intimate moment, we just want to roll over and pass out.

Sometimes we check women out, too.

At some point, a lot of women have a moment, however fleeting, in which we legitimately ponder whether we are lesbians. Why? We just can’t help but check out other girls.

We appreciate the curves of a woman, and sometimes, like you, we can’t help but notice her cleavage. We’ll even comment on it to our friends -- with not an ounce of cattiness or jealousy -- in just sheer admiration.

Actually, I’m willing to go so far as to say that we scope out beautiful women just as frequently as we do a double take at attractive men. Sure, we might voice our annoyance when your gaze is drawn to another woman walking down the street, but take comfort in knowing that, in reality, we were looking, too.

And finally, yes, sometimes we watch porn.

It could be because we’re bored. Alternatively, we might just be curious, or need a little inspiration.

Regardless, whether or not we’re willing to admit it, there are instances when we can be found, in the pitch black darkness of our bedrooms, our faces only lit by the seedy glowing screen on our preferred mobile device, scrolling through pages of free porn in an attempt to find something that’s not completely disturbing.

If we’re pros, we’ve figured out which categories are fruitful, or we know how to sort the results. (By rating? By number of views? It’s a dilemma we deal with, too.) However, it doesn’t mean we aren’t occasionally disappointed when faced with the reality that you watch porn when we aren’t around.

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