How The Ladies Of 'Sex And The City' Represent Each Of Us
In 1998, "Sex and the City" gave birth to our favorite team of besties: Carrie, Samantha, Charlotte and Miranda. Whether they were out to lunch, or clubbing in NYC, these ladies always did it in style.
Although we know it isn’t realistic for a sex columnist to own every pair of Manolo Blahniks and ball out in an apartment on the Upper East side, it was irrelevant to us. Why? "Sex and the City" was our bible.
Every time Bradshaw opened her laptop and started typing, you knew she was about to type some profound rhetorical question about life/sex/relationships that made you think, “Sh*t, that’s on point.” We all admire Samantha’s sex life, even though she is a straight up Cougar. Miranda reflects the feminist in all of us. And admit it, whenever Charlotte asked a stupid question, you were secretly also wondering what the answer was.
No matter what changed in their lives, one thing remained consistent: each other. Hoes over Bros was their unwritten motto. In honor of our favorite day of the week, hump day, we decided to reflect on each of the four legendary women who did sex AND the city the right way.
The infamous Upper East side advice columnist who knows great sex. Carrie is the intellectual, genuine and compassionate one. She is a hopeless romantic stuck in the harsh reality of the big city. Carrie is, what she calls herself, “emotionally slutty.” She put herself through a lot of sh*t with men, but never put them before her girls.
Carrie nailed it when she said “maybe our girlfriends are our soulmates and guys are just people to have fun with.” Whether she’s dating a cocky d-bag ballet star, a writer who was intimidated by her success, or f*cking Big while dating Aidan, she was always writing about it. How else did Carrie cope with all the sh*t Big put her through? Retail therapy. Carrie's style was impeccable and her oven was a mini version of Saks Fifth Avenue and Bergdorf Goodman. Her career, shopping addiction and entourage kept her feet on the ground while her head was in the clouds.
Samantha Jones is what we would now call a “bad bitch.” She doesn’t just pretend not to give a sh*t what people think, she genuinely doesn’t. She does what she wants, when she wants, and doesn’t apologize. One of the best things Samantha Jones ever said was, “I will not be judged by you or society. I will wear whatever and blow whomever I want as long as I can breathe and kneel!” While Samantha had many men in her life, she never let any of them take advantage of her.
Men didn’t use her for sex; she used men for sex. Of course in the end, the guy wound up falling for her. Samantha is the strong one. She battled cancer with a lighthearted attitude. When life gives her lemons, she adds vodka. Samantha is the friend who kicks you in the ass when you need it. She may come off cold, but she has a huge heart…you just have to find the key.
Charlotte is the quintessential sheltered good girl. She was always surprised by how horny the rest of her friends were. In Charlotte’s mind, only love exists, not lust. When her boyfriend Jack asked her what her fantasies were, she told him she wanted a cottage in Maine. She thinks that if you don’t have sex for a year, you can become re-virginized (because she read it somewhere, duh.) Charlotte could have starred in one of those old-fashioned commercials for butter in which she served her family at the dinner table and greeted her husband with a kiss on the cheek after he got home from work in his suit and tie.
Charlotte represents the innocence in all of us. She is the friend who brings a Snack Pack on your girl’s trip to Mexico to avoid Montezuma’s revenge, but winds up being the only one to drink the water anyway. She is the friend who will tell you that if a man isn’t wining and dining you, he isn’t worth your time. While some of Charlotte’s expectations were outdated, she had good intentions and only wanted the best for herself and her friends.
Miranda is the epitome of what we expect from the modern day feminist. She is the man-hating, career-focused cynical friend who’s always telling you to forget the guy and to focus on yourself. While it seems that Miranda is the most grounded and successful one, she was broken inside. “I have low self-esteem, but I express it in a healthy way… by eating a box of Double-Stuffed Oreos.” Amen.
She was constantly pushing Steve out of her life even though she knew that he was a great guy whom she loved. Sometimes, Miranda needs to let go of her fear and stubbornness and give into her instincts. People who think they have life figured out often find out that they are wrong -- which is exactly what happened in Miranda’s case.