Saying This One Thing In Bed Can Lead To Better Sex

If you told me yesterday there was one thing to say to your significant other during sex to increase satisfaction, I would have assumed it was,

There's a party sub in the kitchen just for us.

As it turns out, I would have assumed wrong.

According to research by Dr. David Frederick, an assistant professor of psychology at Chapman University, couples who say “I love you” during sex stand a better chance of living sexually satisfied lives.


The study showed “satisfied” lovers referred to sex with their partners as “passionate,” “loving” and “tender.”

An impressive 69 percent of men and 72 percent of women claimed they were able to maintain -- or even grow -- the feeling of emotional closeness with their significant others past the initial six-month spark.

Dr. Janet Lever, a professor and one of the study's co-authors, said,

It was encouraging to learn that more than one-third of couples kept passion alive, even after a decade or two together. That won't happen on auto pilot; these couples made a conscious effort to ward off routinization of sex.

Connect with your lover with the same level of enthusiasm you'd normally reserve for a 6-foot catered submarine sandwich.

You won't regret it.

Citations: Chapman University researcher leads team to examine what keeps passion alive in long-term relationships (Chapman University Press Room), This Is What You Should Say During Sex (Cosmopolitan)