Your phone dings and you glance at the screen. As you scan the racy message, your mind lights up — in a matter of seconds, it’s racing. Your body feels like it’s buzzing all over. We’ve all been there, and we’ve all wondered why sexting is so hot.
A whopping 74 percent of Americans have exchanged sexy messages with their partners, according to a 2017 study conducted by The Kinsey Institute — which is quite the increase from 2012, when only 21 percent of people surveyed admitted to sexting. And all of that digital seduction isn’t for nothing, either. Research published in the journal Computers in Human Behavior in 2018 revealed that people who regularly sext with their partners have better sex lives than those who don’t. In other words: Lots of us are doing it, and we’re actually reaping some major rewards in our relationships for taking the risk.
And as it turns out, there are some very scientific reasons why we get turned on while sending and receiving suggestive or explicit texts. Intrigued? I talked to LeslieBeth Wish, Ed.D., a licensed psychotherapist, author, and TEDx speaker to learn about the psychology behind sexting: why we do it and how it gets us aroused.