Moving To Be With Your Long-Distance Partner May Not Save Your Relationship, Science Says
Anyone who's ever done long distance or seen the Drew Barrymore and Justin Long movie Going the Distance will tell you the same thing: Being in a long-distance relationship is hard. Of course, it's hard while you're in the relationship, but what happens when you decide you're going to end the distance once and for all? What if one of you actually decides to drop everything in life and move for the other? I'd like to assume that this sort of sacrifice for love would result in a happy ending after all that hard work, but a a recent study found that people who move for a relationship don't always end up living happily ever after.
The study, conducted by Homes.com, surveyed almost 5,000 people to see how many of them have ever actually moved for love. And it turns out, a surprisingly large number of those surveyed admitted that they have actually moved for love. Beyond that, the study looked into how confident people really were going into their decision to move, how many times they've moved for a relationship, and how many of them would do it all over again. So before you go hopping onto the next flight to be with your long distance bae forever, take a look at these stats and make sure you're positive this is the right choice for you.
How many people have actually moved for love?
Next time you're walking down the street, count the first five people you see passing you by. Odds are, one of those five people has moved for love at least once. But this small number could be an indicator that moving just for love is actually a HUGE commitment not many people are willing to make.
A quarter of them were so confident it would work out, they actually bought a house.
So a lot of people have moved for love, but how confident were they in their decision when they decided to go forward with the move? Well, a quarter of them were so confident going into it that they actually bought a house in their new city. Thirty-nine percent decided to rent an apartment in the new city (probably a smart move, if you ask me) and 13 percent even decided to move in with someone else they knew to make their relationship work.
Almost half moved a very long distance.
When we talk about moving, how far are we talking here? I mean, moving out of your comfort zone is always hard, but moving a few towns away isn't the biggest deal in the world. But for almost half (44 percent) of the people making these moves, the move was no small deal. In fact, they moved 500 miles or MORE to be with their baes.
A third of people have moved for love multiple times.
While a large 66 percent of the people who have moved to be with their long-distance loves have only done it once, a pretty significant third of people surveyed have moved for their lovers more than once. In fact, 10 percent of them have moved for lovers more than three times.
But the kicker? Almost half would not move for love again.
Now, for the question we've all been waiting for. We know how many people have moved for someone they loved. We also know how many people were bold enough to go back and do it again. But how many people would never move for love again? Almost half (43 percent) admitted that they wouldn't do it again.
Of course, I don't know all of the details about why people answered the way they did, but according to the people surveyed, moving for love doesn't always sound that pretty. About 18 percent of people said moving didn't help the relationship remain in tact, and 23 percent of people said they broke up after moving anyway.
So... I guess moving to put an end to the long distance in a relationship may not be all it's cracked up to be.
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