Should I Drunk Text My Crush? 5 Important Things To Consider First
Do you ever want to drunk text your crush? Yeah, me too. It sounds like such a good idea in the moment! Very fun and flirty. However, I don't drink anymore, and genuinely, I think it's because I was so bad at drunk texting — bad as in I would do it all the time. I would wake up the next morning from a bender and see that I had texted my crush 30 times in a row, with no response. There's really no recovering from that, except by changing your number and moving cities. (I've done that, too.)
So to prevent you from doing the same things, there are some questions you should ask yourself before you pick up the phone when you've had a few drinks. Like, will sending this text ruin my life?, for example. Or, if I send one, will it have a snowball effect that I won't be able to stop? Because I swear, drunk texting is addictive. Once you send one text, you just can't resist sending a billion more. Then, all of a sudden, you think it's a good idea to FaceTime your Bumble match at 3 a.m. and... oh, boy.
Anyway, here are some important things to consider before you begin the cycle of drunk harassing that person you like. Because it's not as good of an idea as Tequila makes it seem.
1. Will You Regret It?
You will. I always consider this: How will I feel if the person I text doesn't text me back? Will I be embarrassed? Will I be upset that I reached out? If the answer is yes, then I won't reach out, period. (But honestly, maybe that's just me.) Waking up with no regrets is an amazing feeling. Don't you want to have that?
2. Is This The Best Version Of Yourself?
LOL, no. Sloppily texting someone you like is not the version of you that you want to present to the world and, most importantly, your crush. Remember, when you like someone, you want to put your best face forward and be honest about who you are and what you're into. That means not coming off as a total inconsistent, immature person. (But if that's where you're at right now, then that's where you're at.) Just remember that sometimes, people who drunk texts like there's no tomorrow are often treated like inconsistent, immature people.
3. Where Are You At In Your Relationship With This Person?
If you and your crush have been dating for a while, then a drunk text isn't too big a deal. In fact, it might be endearing for your partner to know you're thinking of them while you're out having a few drinks with your friends.
But if you're in the beginning of a new relationship, this could scream red-flag behavior. Too many texts after you've had some drinks are more worrisome than wonderful before someone really knows you. So before you send 'em, think about what stage of your relationship you're at. My rule is this: When in doubt, don't.
4. Can You Do Something Else Instead?
Can't you just, like, eat a pizza, drink some water, or go to bed, or something? I promise you, if you lie down for, like, five minutes, you'll pass right out and save yourself the embarrassment of text regret the next morning.
You might think you need to text your crush when you're drunk, but would sober you do the same? If not, then try doing another hobby, like stuffing your face.
5. What Would You Tell Your BFF To Do?
What would you tell your best friend to do? If your BFF was drunk and wanted to text their crush, would you let them do it? If you wouldn't let them, then you shouldn't do it yourself. Sometimes, we need to see things objectively in order to make good decisions for ourselves, and putting others in our same place might be the best way to do it.
So when it comes to drunk texting, I give it a no. Hard pass. It's usually always best to just sleep it off and text your crush once you've dried out. But if there's one thing I know about myself when I've been drinking, it's that I can't be stopped. So maybe just give your phone to a friend after you've had a few, or at least ask yourself these questions first.
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