Is It True Love? 3 Meaningful Things That'll Never Change In Your Relationship If It Is
Even though you have to play the field like you're going to win each time, there's a 99 percent chance that even if it's true love, the relationship won't last. Even though you risk loss when you fall in love, when it happens for real, there are some things in your relationship that will never change, regardless of whether or not you stay together forever. Because longevity of a relationship has very little to do with whether it's true love or not anyway.
"In a spiritual sense, all true love is eternal. Death, breakups, divorce — whatever it may be — cannot destroy a true love," spiritual matchmaker Heather Kristian Strang told Elite Daily. Certain feelings that come from experiencing true love continue to exist whether or not you are in a relationship. You will continue to hold each other in a high regard, cheer each other on, and believe in each other no matter what. While other relationships might have exposed you to the ugly side of a person and changed the way you feel, you'll continue to appreciate your true love, even with their flaws. When you have experienced true love, you'll also want to share things with them. Even if you hold off for your own well-being, the impulse will still remain. Here's what else you can expect to happen if your love is true:
1. You'll Always Want The Best For Each Other
“A huge element of relationships is hope and excitement for the future: You both want similar things and share common dreams and goals," Alessandra Conti, Celebrity Matchmaker at Matchmakers In The City told Elite Daily. When it's true love, you understand that your partner's success is a win for both of you. You don't ever feel a need to compete with them or tear them down. You're thrilled to see what they can accomplish because you know that they were made to fly. And you know that they believe the same thing about you.
Even if a relationship ends, if it was true love, you will continue to wish the best for one another and will applaud one another's successes. It might just be from afar.
2. You Respect Each Other
“[Respect] supersedes lust and puppy-dog love; respecting your partner is vital if you want your love to be a forever kind of love," Conti said. If it's true love, you and your partner will seek out each other's opinions on everything that is most important to you. You will be able to see their strengths and bestow a lot of faith and trust in each other. Even if you disagree with your SO, you will still highly regard whatever they have to say.
You might break up, but if it was true love, a separation won't stop you from continuing to hold a lot of respect in your heart for your ex. You'll know that even though it didn't work out between you two, they are still an inherently good person. And your former partner will also believe the same of you.
3. You'll Always Want To Share Your Life With Them
“Love eventually turns into a true partnership between best friends [who] are also attracted to each other," explained Nora DeKeyser, a dating coach and matchmaker for Three Day Rule. You want to share everything with your best friend: the small details of your days, the huge disappointments, and enormous triumphs. Celebrating just doesn't feel like celebrating if they aren't present with you, and you love having pillowtalk every night to wind down from your day.
Even if the relationship ends and you go without speaking to each other, you'll still want to talk to them about important things. Eventually, if it was true love, you might be able to establish a friendship where you can continue sharing things with them. And even if you don't get to that level, your true love will continue to stay with you and shape you for the rest of your life.
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