Telling your partner the truth about how you're feeling is hard, and it's definitely harder for some than others. I should know — my partner struggles to get me to open up every day. Communication is imperative in relationships, and if your significant other doesn't talk about their feelings often, you can run into some real trouble. Perhaps your partner is afraid of starting conflict. Perhaps they're afraid of potentially facing rejection or pain. Rather than stubbornness, a hesitance to open up is often the result of fear, so if you have a partner who's unwilling to get down to the nitty-gritty of why they're unhappy, don't take it personally.
I spoke to intimacy expert Allana Pratt, who dove deep into this topic for her book 7 Steps to Manifest Your Beloved While Staying True To Yourself. "Craving a deeper connection and wanting your significant other to open up and talk more about their feelings can be a lonely and scary place," Pratt says. "We can go down some pretty dark tunnels when we face our fears around intimacy." Having a closed-off partner is isolating, but luckily, there are some ways you can convince your partner to open up (because chances are that they're feeling pretty isolated, too).