Coming out as transgender is a life-changing moment, and it's a milestone that deserves to be celebrated. If your partner comes out as transgender, how you react can make all the difference. Your partner's gender identity is not a choice, but you can choose how you respond to your SO's news. Yes, you may potentially feel confusion or fear about how your relationship will change, and your questions and feelings are valid. However, your SO should be prioritized in the moment, and the best way to support your trans partner is with respect, tact, and lots of love.
I spoke to Renée H. Reopell, LCSW, and they gave me insight into how you should respond to, comfort, and celebrate your trans partner after they come out. "When someone shares their authenticity with you, this is a privilege," they explain. "It is a privilege to sit with someone's true self and honor that fully." As well as working to understand and support your partner's gender identity, it is your responsibility as a trans person's SO to self-educate about the trans experience and the discrimination trans individuals oftentimes face. If you're not sure how you can effectively support your trans partner, here are some tips.