My brother-in-law once asked what I would do if Puff, my beloved Pomeranian, morphed into an independently wealthy human man. Without hesitation, I said, "Ask if he's single." Yeah, sure, this is probably something I should address with my therapist, but the moral of the story is that I love Puff more than most (if not all?) human men. And if you look at your dog with the same fervent — albeit mildly unhealthy — adoration that I do, but your boyfriend doesn't like your dog (or vice-versa), it can be a major problem.
My first boyfriend didn't dislike my dog, per se, but he was always making snide remarks — he questioned Puff's masculinity and claimed his lion's cut did not flatter his figure. Puff's got a heart of gold, so he never held this against First Boyfriend, but I could tell he never fully trusted him, either. Our relationship eventually unraveled for a variety of reasons, but I'd be lying if I said that Puff's lack of approval didn't play a role in that breakup.
And I'm not alone. A 2017 study conducted by dog-walking and pet-sitting network Rover.com found that 54 percent of pet owners would end their relationship if their dog didn't approve of their significant other. Woof.
(By the way, that same study also found that 65 percent of pet owners take more pictures of their dogs than of their partners, which brings me more joy than I can really express with words).
But you didn't come here for dismal statistics about pet-related breakups, did you? No, you came for solutions. And I've got them! Well, Marissa Miller — the freelance journalist and editor behind this 2015 Cosmpolitan.com essay on the struggles she faced dating a cat-owner despite her terrible allergies to cats — has solutions!
Not long after penning that piece, Miller and her cat-cuddling boyfriend tied the knot, and they've since adopted another cat together. So, if anyone can help you navigate this pet-partner dissonance, it's her.
Here's a look at exactly what to do if your partner and your pet aren't seeing eye-to-eye, and you don't want to sacrifice either relationship...