Feeling a bit distant from your partner can happen in the happiest of relationships. Life's obligations can get in the way of your intimacy and connection, but making an effort to get closer is not impossible. If you want to feel more connected to your partner, experts say that it's time to communicate with them, as well as focus on what you can do during those small, everyday moments. Joshua Klapow, Ph.D., clinical psychologist and host of The Kurre and Klapow Show stresses that the tiniest actions can have the most significant impact. He also emphasizes that the key to confronting your feelings of disconnection. Letting your partner know that you are feeling disconnected is critical, as it sets the stage for problem-solving.
"The more we can 'micro bond,' where we engage in small actions that keep us connected and strengthen the connection, the more effective and lasting the bigger bonding moments are," Dr. Klapow tells Elite Daily. He explains that while grand gestures, like taking a romantic vacation, can make us feel closer to our partner, that connection is fleeting. By doing daily small things for your SO, in a way that's spread out and not too intense, you'll be creating the longevity of a long-term partnership. "These acts of connection work when the time is right," Dr. Klapow says. "Don't assume if you just carry these all out, your partner will love you and feel instantly closer — they may actually think you're being a little weird".
Read on for small gestures that can help you slowly take steps toward feeling closer to your partner.