I'm just going to say it — relationships can be tough. Any relationship with another human being can be confusing and complicated, and romantic relationships can be even more so. Even if you and your significant other started out with the best of intentions, if you're having a tough time communicating, are arguing a lot, or questioning your compatibility, you might be considering going your separate ways. If you're unsure and can't decide if you should break up or not, just take a deep breath.
No matter if you've been in a relationship for one month, one year, or more, deciding to split can still be a really rough decision to make. Trust me, I've been there. Having doubts about your relationship can make you feel unstable, unsupported, and maybe a little lost. Having turmoil in your romantic relationship is super stressful, and if you and your partner have been trying to work things out, or sweeping issues under the rug, you probably need a big glass of wine and a hug. (Come over, I have both those things.) While deciding to breakup or not, the first thing you should try to do is to be kind to yourself. Engage in some positive and self-affirming thinking, listen to your intuition, and repeat these three mantras.