How To Tell Your Partner They're Bad In Bed, As Told By 15 Women Who Have Done It


Thanks to the internet and sites like ours, there truly is no shortage of advice available on how to have a satisfying and healthy sex life. As you should. But there is one topic that tends to get overlooked in all this sexual improvement talk: the bad sex we're trying to improve on in the first place. For instance, what do you do if your SO just kind of... well... sucks at sex? Are you supposed to figure out how to tell them they're bad in bed? If you’re choosing to lie to your partners, you’re only short-changing your own orgasms by faking it, but does “honesty is the best policy” always apply to folks who can’t put it down in the boudoir?

I don't think it's that simple. You don't want to make them feel bad or embarrassed because they are underperforming, particularly if you aren’t planning to have an ongoing sexual relationship with them. But you also don't want to have bad sex forever. So, what is a girl to do when the sex is just abjectly terrible?

A recent Redditor had the same question, so she put it to the good folks of Reddit. The responses were… very illuminating. As it turns out, it was pretty split between those who took on the challenge of walking their partner through their sexual shortcomings and those who didn’t say anything all, opting instead to never gave that partner another opportunity to disappoint them. They all did however all have some amazingly cringe-worthy experiences along the way. So, what do you say we pop some popcorn and gawk at these very NSFW sexual train wrecks together.

Women Who Did The Work

- Pantone877

- cannibalkoala

- falkenna

- playbyear1234

- CatrionaShadowleaf

- ireasearch

- Larimar561

- TinyCynner

Women Who Didn’t

- sleepyemoji

- jewelrider

- CaptCmndr

- Kemokiro

- ShmoopLoop

- GryffBitch

So why do so many women chose not to tell someone they hooked up with that they were terrible in bed? Well I’ll let one last redditor — who was responding to a man who came on the thread who asked the same thing — sum it up.

- ireasearch

Safety first, indeed.

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