How To Move The Conversation Off Tinder & Into Real Life
Have you ever been talking with someone on a dating app for what seems like forever, only to have the conversation never move into real-life territory? That's happened to me plenty of times, and once, I actually ended up messaging someone — only messaging — for years. It can be difficult to know how to move the conversation off Tinder if your match isn't explicitly asking you out, and you don't want to come off as too aggressive. However, if you don't make the move, you might just end up with a pen pal and sore thumbs from messaging.
Listen, it's 2017, and you can't just sit around, waiting to be asked out. Go get what you want. And if that's someone on Tinder, then why not pursue it? In this digital dating era, people have a lot of options, and sometimes, you just have to be bold to get what you deserve.
So here are the best things to say to move a conversation on Tinder from online to in-person. Because you're not looking for a pen pal, right?
1. "I Don't Use This App Much, So Here's My Number."
I use this line all the time, because honestly, I do not check my dating apps with any kind of consistency, and it leads to some dead-end conversations. A guy might ask me how my Tuesday is going, and on Sunday, I'll respond with, "I think it was good?"
A perfect way to save an app conversation is to move it straight to text, which can then, hopefully, be moved to real life. And by giving your match your number, you're still allowing them to do the asking out, just in case you're feeling shy about making the first move.
2. "How About I Tell You The Rest Of The Story Over Drinks?"
You don't want to give away all your good material on Tinder. There have been times where I've talked so much online that, when I finally meet my date in real life, we have nothing left to talk about. Good messaging and text chemistry are important, of course, but you need to save some of that magic for IRL, too.
So leave your conversation with a cliffhanger, and tell your Tinder match that you have to tell them the rest of the story in person. They'll probably ask you out in no time... unless they hate a good story. (But who hates stories?!)
3. "You're One Of The Good Ones, So Let's Actually Hang Out."
You're leading with a compliment here, and who can resist a compliment? I can't. Everyone wants to feel special on a dating app, especially when there are literally so many options for someone to choose from.
Make your match feel separate from the pack. It'll create an increased level of intimacy between you already that you can take into your first date.
4. "You're Cute, And I Think You Should Ask Me Out."
Subconsciously (or kind of obviously actually) plant a seed into your match's head that they should ask you out on a date. If you're nervous about making the first move, this puts the ball in their court while still conveying that you're interested and want to spend time with this person.
5. "I Like Talking To You, And I Bet We'd Have Fun In Real Life."
The usual winning formula: Compliment them and then plant the seed. It. Never. Fails.
So if you want to move your conversation from online to IRL, try out one of these pick-up lines. Take it from me: The last thing you want is to be talking to someone for years without actually meeting.
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