How To Initiate Sex With Your Boyfriend, According To Guys


Initiating sex can be awkward. Even if you've been with your partner for years, initiating can be a super vulnerable thing to do and, as a result, potentially super awkward. More importantly, because we live in a society where men are taught to be the sexual initiators, lots of straight women have no freaking idea how to even go about initiating sex with their partners. But, luckily for those who don't really know how to go about getting ~sexy time~ started, a new Reddit thread had men explain some tips on how to initiate sex, based on their favorite ways the women in their life had initiated sex before.

Now, obviously, you don't need some random dude from Reddit telling you how to initiate sex with your partner. If you've already got a good grip on how to do that, more power to you! You go, girl! But if you feel like you're struggling a bit in the initiation department, take these responses as some welcome suggestions for how to spice up your routine. I'm not a straight dude, so I can't really speak from personal experience here, but I'm going to go ahead and guess anything mentioned below will do. After all, you're asking him to have sex with you, not to wipe the fungus from under your toes.

Don't be afraid to get a little touchy feely.


Catch him off guard.


Set the ~mood~ in your room.


Strip him down.


Seduce him.


Cuddle sans clothing.


A short skirt can go a long way.


Wear your jammies.


Whisper dirty stuff.


Make a bold suggestion.


Take control.


Give him the look.


All right, now, time to get out there and go be your SEXY self.

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