Let me paint a picture for you. It's a beautiful sunny day. You and your partner are enjoying a lovely walk outside, hand in hand, when suddenly, a strikingly beautiful person crosses your path. You notice the person catches your partner's attention and, even if it's just for a split second, you notice them check the hottie out. What's your next move? How do you react? Well, if you're wondering what to do
when your partner checks someone else out, I come bearing answers!
There's no one "right" way to process this moment. Regardless of whether the experience brings up strong emotions or doesn't bother you in the slightest, that's understandable. In a recent Reddit AskWomen thread, ladies shared their best advice from firsthand experience and I highly recommend taking note.
Yeah I don't think of it as caught since I don't care if he does it. Attractive people exist and no shame in noticing them. He's loyal so I don't feel like I have to be controlling or shame him.
Try Complimenting The Other Person
Yes and honestly it doesn’t bother me much. I feel attracted to people when I’m with him too, it doesn’t mean anything for our relationship. Those people will pass by and we will never see them again.But sometimes when I’m feeling insecure about something in comparison to a girl passing by, I’ll compliment the very thing about her that makes me feel insecure. I’ll say, “wow her hair is beautiful!” Or “her high cheek bones are so pretty” whatever it is, and that sort of takes the power out of my insecurity. Because it’s the truth, I do think her hair is beautiful and I do love her face structure, she’s really pretty! But it doesn’t mean my hair sucks or that my face isn’t pretty.Of course, if your dude is being blatantly disrespectful to you and oogling everything that walks by, I can understand feeling upset. The best solution in this situation is a calm conversation about the issue directly with your guy. Communication is key.
Take The Way He's Doing It Into Account
Honestly, for me it’s all in the way it’s done. One guy I was with would see a girl go by, sit back in his chair, cross his arms and head turn follow her. It was embarrassing to me the way it would go down. Like have a little respect for her and me, you’re 40 and you look like a fool.
Don't Make It A Huge Deal
He noticed I noticed and apologized I said "meh it was just a look, do I have to apologise for checking out guys too now?" We smiled and got cake i think.
Again, The Way It Happens Is Important To Note
I don’t like it if it’s in a sexual way- I wouldn’t want him looking at someone’s a** or boobs and being like . However if he was just observing someone’s nice hair or tallness or some other non sexual feature then I couldn’t care less. We like to people watch together. But if he has any sexual thoughts when checking out others, I don’t want to see it or know about it, I’d prefer him to keep his thoughts private as I’m a jealous and sensitive person. Likewise, I never check out other guys. niceee
Feel Free To Take Part In It With Your Partner
We check women out together, I'll see a girl with a nice a** and tell him about it. I do the same with guys too so he knows that it's a momentary thought and is gone as soon as we pass by the person.
Remember That It's Only Natural
I don't expect him to stop noticing attractive people because we're together. He's married, not dead.
Of course, you are
always entitled to your own feelings. If your partner checking other people out doesn't bother you, great! If it does, that's fine too. All that matters is that you feel comfortable openly and honestly sharing your reactions with your partner.