Although many of us fantasize about being chased by a mob of eligible suitors á la The Bachelorette, the truth is that being pursued can also present some obstacles. Especially if it's by someone who you aren't into. Knowing how to tell someone you just aren’t interested isn't easy, but it's a very necessary part of the dating process. I spoke to licensed clinical psychotherapist and relationship expert Dr. LeslieBeth Wish about the best way to let someone know you aren't into them.
Before taking the plunge, however, Dr. Wish warns against jumping to conclusions too soon. "Too often we fool ourselves into thinking that we really know ourselves and let previous dating experiences interfere with our assessment of a person," Dr. Wish tells Elite Daily. "Many romance comedies start with two people not liking each other and they have to overcome their biases and inaccurate assessments of each other. Remember, you can be your worst obstacle in seeing the other person — and yourself — clearly." So, if you suspect you might be rushing to make a judgment based on limited information, Dr. Wish recommends implementing a three-strike rule. Once they've demonstrated three solid reasons they're not a good match, you know for certain it isn't worth pursuing. If you're already sure about how you feel, it's time to start considering the best way to break the news. Here are some tips on how to approach this uncomfortable conversation.