Often when a relationship ends, there's an inflection point that, even it’s been building for a long time, naturally leads into the moment where you break up. However, there are some cases where it's not a conclusive and final event that happens, but rather, it’s the slow and painful dawning realization that the person you're dating is not who you want spend your life with. This can be really painful, especially since it means you need to know how to break up with someone who isn’t the one just because they aren’t, well, “the one.”
In this kind of scenario, when it's not something they said or did that's making you want to leave the relationship, it's especially important to try and do it with kindness. And as Elle Huerta, CEO and founder of heartbreak recovery app Mend, tells Elite Daily, not all relationships are meant to last, and that's OK. “Remember that relationships that don't last forever can still be worthwhile if they help you grow and learn,” says Huerta. “However, if you no longer want to be in your relationship because you think it's holding you back from meeting 'the one,' then the nicest thing you can do is be direct and not leave it open-ended when you break up.”
If you know in your heart that it’s over, all that leaves is knowing how to end it. Here's how the experts say to break it off — as kindly as possible.