Ah, ghosting. It's the dating phenomenon that happens when people are too cowardly to actually end things with the people they've been seeing, so they choose to just… disappear instead.
Ghosters are idiots. But if you've ever been ghosted, know that you're not alone.
In this weekly column, I share a tale of a time a reader was ghosted (with accompanying screenshots) so you can see the last text that was sent or words that were uttered before someone decided to disappear forever. I present to you: Boom, Ghosted.
This week we have Mark*, who was ghosted TWICE by an Uber driver he dated, who keeps popping back up:
After a 60-minute trip home, I treated this ride as a first date. My driver was cute and adorably Swedish (yes, like the fish). He had an accent and seemingly had his shit together: good job, getting his master's, had a car, two apartments, side hustle, etc.
By the end of my ride, he Facebook messaged me. We chatted and made plans to grab dinner. The following week, we had our official first date, had a nice dinner, and he even drove me all the way home after. (He didn't even charge me.) He FB messaged me thanking me for seeing him that night.
I replied, telling him I had a nice time. And then... I never heard from him again. He totally ghosted me.
Four months later, he wished me a happy birthday: “Happy birthday my dear. Wish all your wish comes true.” (The whole wish, how sweet.) I replied thanking him.
After very brief chatting, I asked him if he'd like to grab another drink... and never heard from him again. To this day, he'll like my posts and stay my FB friend, but he won't respond to me. RUDE!
Um... OK, so much to talk about here.
First and foremost, who knew your Uber or Lyft or Via or any other car service ride was such a solid opportunity to connect with someone in a ~romantic~ way?! Good for Mark for being able to pull a hot dude when I'm usually taking a nap or catching up with my mom on the phone.
So, although this didn't work out in the end, I do think there's a silver lining in this story. I mean, think about it: Every cab or other car service ride you take could be your very own chance at LOVE. A one-hour-long car ride with the right driver could turn into an epic first date (assuming they don't ghost you, of course).
All right, now that I've gotten the positives out of the way, put yourselves in Mark's shoes. Imagine having this magical hour-long car ride, and then, going on a great date, and then, having a cute conversation post-date, and then, having the guy reaffirm your feelings (after you just forgot about him ghosting you) by messaging you happy birthday, and then, working up the courage to put yourself out there... only to get ghosted by him again.
Then, as if all of that rejection wasn't painful enough, HE CONTINUES TO LIKE YOUR STUFF ON SOCIAL MEDIA?! LIKE, ARE YOU KIDDING ME?! Brutal.
Have you guys ever gone through anything like this? Have you fallen for a driver? Have you then been ghosted by said driver? Have you been zombied? Have you been the one to zombie someone? Have you been the one to ghost your driver? Reach out to us with any of your ghosting stories at firstname.lastname@example.org.
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*Names have been changed.