Healing from a hard breakup is rarely ever easy, and when you're hurting, you might be willing try anything to let go of that pain and move forward. That includes considering sleeping with an ex, if you think it might help you close the chapter on the relationship. But does having sex with an ex help you get closure, or is it just an excuse to reconnect with that ex and ease the pain for a minute? And if it doesn't work, how can you actually get the healing closure you need to fully put that relationship in the rear view?
These are exactly the kinds of questions I've asked myself after splitting up with someone I cared about. And I know I can't be alone in wondering if one final hookup would do the trick. So, to help clarify whether or not it's ever a good idea to fall back into bed with a former flame, I reached out to the experts, Trina Leckie, breakup coach and host of the Breakup BOOST podcast, and Cherlyn Chong, a dating and breakup recovery coach for professional women, for their advice about how to actually get closure, and to ask if that process includes one last sex sesh for the road. Here is what they had to say.