If your Instagram feed looks anything like mine, you may be getting swarmed by people's "OMG, just got engaged" posts. It can feel like there's such an emphasis on happy proposals that it's easy to forget that saying "no" is also an option. There are plenty of totally valid reasons to reject a proposal and, in a recent Reddit AskWomen thread, women explain the reasons they'd say no to the big question. And every single one of them is totally valid.
Relationships are incredibly complex, nuanced, and personal. Unfortunately, there's no crystal ball you can peer into or fairy godmother who can appear to tell you if getting engaged to your partner is the right decision for you. (What can help? Time, self-reflection, honest conversations with your partner, therapy, and more — just like no two marriages are alike, no two journeys to getting there are the same, either.)
And let me make one thing super, extra, crystal clear: If you're not over-the-moon ecstatic to say "yes" to a proposal, it's more than OK to say "no." Whatever your reasoning is, that's good enough! So, while all of these reasons highlighted below are totally valid, do yourself a favor and keep in mind that they're just six out of an infinite number of perfectly understandable excuses not to marry someone. It's as simple as that.