So you've survived your breakup, and surely the hardest part is over, right? Not always. In some ways, post-breakup loneliness can feel even more difficult than the back-and-forth dance you and your ex were doing when you were calling it quits. Once it's officially over, you realize just how much time your relationship filled in your day. Suddenly, you have all these hours to fill, and it can be easy for feelings of isolation and "What now?" to set in. That's why having a few tips for dealing with loneliness after a breakup on standby can make all the difference.
The first thing to realize, says Cherlyn Chong, a dating and breakup recovery coach for professional women, is that just because you're lonely, doesn't mean you're alone. Pretty much everyone goes through what you're going through now at some point. "Humans are made to connect, and after losing someone who was so intimate with you, it can feel destabilizing to realize that you have no one to keep you company or do things with. It's going to take awhile to rebuild your identity to a point where you feel good with your own company, so be kind to yourself and accept that it's just a part of the process," Chong tells Elite Daily.
The key is to find ways to pick yourself up again and start the healing process. "The most important thing you should know is that there are harmful ways to deal with loneliness , and there are healthy ways to deal with the loneliness that will only make you stronger in the future," says Chong. Here’s how the experts suggest combatting those post-breakup blues.