Texting a new romantic or sexual prospect can be a ton of fun. You might get to learn what their style of communication is and display your wit. I love texting — it just might be my favorite form of communication, after carving my mom's name into the sand at the beach. But sometimes, at the start of a relationship, you might not know what they're interested in. If you want to know if your partner is looking for a relationship or a casual hookup, you may want to pay attention to texting signals that mean they're only interested in sex. There's nothing wrong with having casual sex if that's what you're both seeking out, but it's always good to communicate about your intentions so that you're both on the same page. Luckily, I spoke to the experts to get the info you need.
You might convey a lot of information over text — how you're feeling, when you're available, what your take on the latest season of Fleabag is (amazing, I assume). But you might also convey romantic interest in someone else, and them in you. Remember — signals are just signals, so if someone is sending signals that mean they're only interested in sex, that doesn't mean it's absolutely true. It just means you should keep it in mind and have an open and honest relationship about it moving forward.
Read on to find five text signals that indicate they're only interested in sex.
If someone's texts are always about hanging out at one of your apartments, they may just be looking for sex. "One indicator is that they text you and only want to hang at their place or your place," Dr. Brown says. "Typically, they never send a text that says, 'Would you like to go out for dinner?'" If the person you're into doesn't take the time to plan dates or even suggest outdoors activities, that could be a signal they're just looking for sex. However, you should keep in mind other factors, like whether or not they're able to spend money on going out to eat, before coming to conclusions.
If you're interested in something more serious (and only if), you might not feel great about receiving texts from someone who's only interested in sex. Trust your intuition — it may be the biggest signal of all. "When you receive a text from them, you feel dirty," Dr. Brown says. "You can tell by how you feel when they text about sex. Do you feel good or do you feel turned off by their approach?" Cox echoes his thoughts. "Know what you want. If you are interested in a long term relationship, then stop texting them." Just wanting sex doesn't have to be a turn-off, but if it's not what you're looking for, you should trust your intuition when you receive their texts.
It's totally fine to just want to have casual sex. However, if it's not what you're looking for and you're talking to someone you like, their texts might be able to give you some information about whether or not they want to get more serious. It's always important to keep the communication open with the person you're seeing, so if you have concerns, don't be afraid to bring them up! And just remember — even if they are interested only in sex, you'll find someone who is interested in the same things as you. So happy dating!